You found the right place
Bashert4me is now ClickShadchan.
Same people, same mission, new name — and if you had a Bashert4me account, your login still works. Send in the shidduch résumé you already have and it fills out your profile for you. From there, one thoughtful suggestion at a time — brought to you, not broadcast to everyone. And the moment both sides are interested, a real shadchan picks up the phone and carries it the way it's always been carried.
Nothing is shared without your yes. Pause or leave anytime — your data goes with you.
Watch: what this is all about
How it works
Quiet, respectful, one step at a time.
Upload the résumé you have
Send in the shidduch résumé that's already going around and it fills out your profile for you — background, family, what you're looking for. You read it over and fix anything we got wrong. No long forms.
The matching does the legwork
Instead of one person trying to hold hundreds of résumés in their head, the system reads through the whole pool every week — kehila, learning, family situation, location, and what you actually asked for — and brings up the few worth a real look.
Suggestions come to you
One to three screened suggestions arrive in your inbox — never a list to browse. Look closer, set one aside, or pass; your reasons shape what comes next.
Both sides interested — a shadchan takes over
This is where the machine stops. A real, vetted shadchan picks it up, speaks to both families, and carries the shidduch the traditional way — start to finish.
The part that never changes
A computer never made a shidduch.
And it never will.
Every single here is looked after by a real, vetted shadchan. The moment both sides are interested, the shadchan picks up the phone — speaks to both families, checks what needs checking, and stays with the shidduch until the l'chaim.
What we take off their plate is the part that used to eat their nights: reading through hundreds of résumés to find the handful worth a phone call. We're not replacing shadchanim — we're giving them back their time, so they can spend it on the calls that make shidduchim.
The technology does the searching. The shadchan does the shidduch.
Built for our community
Not a dating site. A better way to do what we've always done.
Sealed until it matters
The other side sees your résumé — never your contact details. Phone, address, exact birthday, and children's names unlock only on a mutual yes. That's not a policy promise — the system is built so it can't show them early.
A real shadchan makes the shidduch
Vetted shadchanim review, suggest, and guide every match — and once both sides are interested, your shadchan runs it by phone the traditional way. The system does the searching; the people you trust do the shidduch.
Second marriages, handled with care
Divorced or widowed? The process accounts for children, halachic details, and the discretion your situation deserves.
You hold the keys
Choose who can see you, pause whenever you need to, and export or delete your data at any time — no phone calls required.
Simple, honest pricing
Start free. Upgrade when you're ready for weekly matched suggestions.
Open Door
$0
- Upload your shidduch résumé — it fills out the profile for you
- Your private profile, on your terms
- Choose up to 3 shadchanim to work with — one steps in on a mutual yes
- Receive suggestions your shadchanim send
- Full privacy controls, always
The Search
$30/month
- Everything in Open Door
- 1–3 matched suggestions every week from our smart matching engine
- Your feedback on every pass sharpens the next round
- Cancel anytime — you keep access through what you've paid for
Questions families ask us
Is this a dating site?
No. There is no browsing, no swiping, and no public profiles. Suggestions are brought to you privately, one at a time, and every match is guided by a vetted shadchan — exactly like the traditional process, minus the weeks of waiting.
Is a computer deciding my shidduch?
No. The system does one job: reading through the whole pool so the few worth a real look reach you instead of sitting in a pile. Nothing moves without your yes, and the moment both sides are interested a real shadchan takes over and runs it by phone — speaking to both families and staying with it to the end. We're not replacing shadchanim; we're giving them back the hours they used to spend searching.
Do I have to fill out a long form?
No. Upload the shidduch résumé that's already going around and it fills out the profile for you — background, family, and what you're looking for. You read it over and correct anything, and the office is there if you'd rather they did it for you.
Who can see my information?
A suggestion works like a proper shidduch résumé: the other side sees your name, background, and family picture from the start — that's how real decisions get made. What stays sealed until a mutual yes: your contact details, exact birthday, and your children's names. You decide when your photo shows, and you can limit your profile so only the shadchanim you choose can see it at all.
I'm divorced or widowed — is this for me?
Very much so. The intake covers children, custody, and halachic details with the sensitivity they need, and matching accounts for your situation rather than treating it as an afterthought.
Do I need my own shadchan to join?
No — you choose from the vetted shadchanim on the platform (up to three). If you already work with one, ask them to join; matches you make here are theirs to guide.
Can I take a break or leave?
Anytime. Pause your visibility in Settings and no one new sees you; close your account and your data can be exported or permanently deleted — no phone call needed.
Prefer to talk to a person? Call (718) 750-2542 or email info@clickshadchan.org.